Not sure if this is what I need
Ok I'm 24 and I fap generally once a day on average. I do skip days and there's been days I double this or more..
I had a girlfriend of more than 30 months and we broke up 12 months ago. I'd see her 1-2 times a week as we lived a distance from each other in the beginning we would have sex and from memory it was good but as time went on it became harder to orgasm and even maintain erections. Since we broke up id continued masturbating but now a year later I've met a female and it's even worse. It's embarrassing, and I want it fixed sooner rather than later.
My new female friend is a solid 9.5/10 she's gorgeous and it's killing me. I don't particularly want to lose her.
I think rebooting is my answer. It makes sense... I hope it's my answer.
I've been a regular porn user for approximately 7-8 years id say. I want to talk to my doctor about it but it's embarrassing, and I'm sure if I bring this up they wouldn't have any ideas about it.
I can get a boner when I masturbate but maintaining one during sex now isn't working. Is there hope for me? Where do I start? How do I know this is the answer?
Any help/questions greatly appreciated
Last edited by Kthanks; 10-22-2013 at 04:01 AM.
Reason: Additional information
I don't really have anything to say other than you are NOT alone. I have the exact same problem. My body is on fire, but I can't get it to stay up. It's horrible. Hopefully, a full reboot will help matters.
Hang in there.
Appreciate the response, I stopped fapping officially last Friday.
I'd like to know if anyone has advice for me dealing with the new girl? Should I bother talking to a doctor? Is it possible to do this and keep this amazing woman?
If you have a woman that you rate 9.5 out of 10, then you shouldn't lack motivation.
Originally Posted by Kthanks
I used to wonder why I could easily get and maintain a strong erection while masturbating to porn, but couldn't get hard when I was with a very attractive woman. When I discovered NoFap, I learned pretty quickly that my ED was a result of PMO and the 'death grip'.
Well done for reaching 4 days and keep going with the challenge. Keep that hand away from your dick and don't watch any porn. Whenever you think of porn just dream about your girlfriend instead. My guess is you will start to notice improvements after a week or ten days. I wouldn't say it's necessary to talk to a doctor at this stage. Draw on your own inner strength and you can beat this problem and keep your woman.
A 90 reboot is the only chance you have got, you should have no doubts about it at all. Your doctor probably does not need to know about it, not because of embarrassment but simply because you are blowing it out of proportion, quitting porn and fapping WILL cure your ED, its as simple as that.
As for your new female partner, if you are worried about losing her then you are already in a losing mentality. Nofap is not a cult, just be upfront about it, she will respect you more if you do.
To Ulick Myers and Daenxi.
Thanks for confirming some of my questions. You both put it well and it gives me great strength and faith to continue. Before this girl came along I knew something wasn't right but lacked motivation or reason to do anything. Soon as she arrived I was panicking like never before. I like the way you make it certain it will get better, it's what I need. I'll consider being upfront though I already have a cover story. I'll keep this thread updated with how I'm going, and if I have any concerns.
So I'm reporting in. It's been 11 days now, I've noticed changes already. Morning wood is back, im finding myself more easily stimulated by my female companion. We've had sex, but I try and avoid it subtly if and where possible, or just keep her happy. I'm not really struggling with it right now, though I am just doing no P or M. I'll keep you updated if I feel any differently or notice changes.
Glad to see you made it to day 11 since you got this far I have a couple of tips for you
1) Your brain is wired on porn, so you might get an urge to watch some porn without masturbating or edging. Just don't do this it will give you a headache and mess up your mood.
2)This girl is 9.5/10 believe me if your on day 11 you shouldn't have problem getting it up, if anything the anxiety that you build up with in yourself might make you not perform or the fear of not performing.
3)I wouldn't let her know anything about NoFap, she might think your weird there is no need for her to know.
Also you'll be cured trust me, you don't know no doctor or anything. Just build up your will power and reach day 30. You'll be a new you.....